Why Success Makes You Miserable

And what you can do about it

Dr. Adebeshin Lawal
7 min readJul 31, 2020


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Smart and successful people should be happier but research and observations prove that most are not as happy as we thought they should be. This might not be entirely true for all people but let's talk about why most of those who are not happy feel that way. One of the commonly held opinions is that succeeds brings happiness.

Success will not make you happy. The only way to feel successful about yourself and your accomplishment is to see success as relative accomplishment. The key to happiness is not a success. It is found that happiness is the key to success.

There are super achievers in sports, business, art, politics that feel miserable after major achievements. They set and achieve the greatest goal of their lives and yet they still feel miserable afterward.

You may have experienced such before. You have a stable income, you are skillful and you have the family and friends around you and yet still you feel less happy.

As an entrepreneur, I have made some deals or acquired big clients and still feel miserable and less happy afterward. I have seen some miserable but successful people and I begin to question if happiness leads to success or it is success that leads to happiness.

Generally, there are three things that can ensure your happiness while you are making success in your career and life

Don't focus on other people success

There are street sweepers that are happier than the best doctors in the world. Why? Probably the street sweepers derive more joy from what she does. She chooses her career by default and she is doing a lot more fun than the doctor that his career was chosen for him by his parents.

Of course, there are many phases of success, agreed. You can define your own success without anybody's approval. As long it's serving you and indirectly serving other people around you, you are good to go.

Earl Nightingale defined success as thus,

Success is really nothing more than the progressive realization of a worthy ideal. This means that any person who knows what they are doing and where they are going is a success. Any person with a…



Dr. Adebeshin Lawal

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